Baby showers. The dreaded event for an infertile woman. Yesterday I attended one of my best friend's baby showers. Was it easy? No. But I did kick infertility in the butt yesterday and told it to shut it's loud mouth and go away for a day. It worked.
I did have a slight moment of panic about 20 minutes before the shower but thankfully through text messages a good friend talked me through it. I met up with another friend before the shower so I didn't have to show up by myself.
Two of my friends that were also college roommates that live way out of town also came. It was so nice to see them and I even got to meet one of my friend's babies. I had a lot of fun playing with her and getting to know such a beautiful spirit....my friend is an adorable mom. A natural!
Overall, I was super proud of myself for pushing myself to go to this shower. (Yes I am totally giving myself props here!) My friend who's shower it was gave me the most sincere thank you hug right when I walked in the door for being there. She texted me again after the shower thanking me for coming. Ya I think that made it worth it. I am so thankful to her for recognizing the effort. But really this is a shower I would not have allowed myself to miss. Sure, it tore at my heart a little bit to see all of the cute frog pajamas, and blue elephant stuff animal, and cute socks and booties....but yesterday it was not about me. It was not about the fact that I do not have a baby yet. Yesterday was about my very good friend and the new joy that is about to be brought into her life in May. I am so very glad that I got to celebrate that with her.
Wow...you are a fabulous friend for going and what is even better, is that more than one of your friends understood the strength it took to be there and acknowledged that. One day....it will be all about you and your baby :)
ReplyDeletewow, good for you, tuff stuff. I have been glad when I have gone to things like this too, but it is not always easy. You are one strong lady.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like we were in similar situations.
ReplyDeleteI was at a birthday party for twin 1-year olds. There were like 8 kids there under 3!
Tough stuff.
I think we are much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. You are a tough woman and hopefully our time will come and those same ladies will be at OUR showers.
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Major props to you! What a great friend you are for getting through the tough stuff so that you could celebrate with her.
ReplyDeleteThat was so nice of your friend to recognize that it was difficult for you to be there....a lot of people forget about that. I have two showers next month....I'm sorta dreading them, but know I can't miss them....because like you said "it's about them, not me." Plus, I'd like to be there to support my friends, even if it's difficult for me.
ReplyDeleteGood for you!!! It takes a lot of guts to make it through those showers with grace. I have quite a few to go to this year, and I am just hoping I can get through it like you did. :)
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Good for you!!! Sometimes it takes alot to put our tears on hold, but this is a true testament to your strength :)
ReplyDeleteAnd so you should be proud of yourself too!Good on you, I have found that it's often the thought of going to these things that's actually worse than being there, same with babies-it's nice to hold one and be reminded of what we're fighting for :)
ReplyDeleteYour friends sound very supportive of you too which is great :) Nice work in kicking some IF butt!xo
Good for you!!! That is SO hard to do, but you'll never regret GOING and supporting your friend in her joy. Proud of you Sara!
ReplyDeleteI'm impressed! You should definitely be proud of yourself! And how wonderful to have such an understanding and supportive friend - that makes a huge difference.
ReplyDeleteI have been glad when I have gone to things like this too, but it is not always easy. It sounds like we were in similar situations.
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